Forgive abusive parents if you dare. Dealing with abusive parents can be risky. Here’s 10 serious signs you possibly should NOT forgive your parents for abusing you or your children – including your FOSTER children.
NB: The MYTH that forgiving abusers will miraculously cure victim’s trauma will clearly remain part of pop psychology through the 2020s. But I CAN’T stay silent & content myself with ONLY promoting happy family hacks for parents & foster parents who already love & care. I’ve worked with too many kids for too many years who were in foster care (or at risk of being in care) because they were abused by their parents. I’m medically retired now, but I will never turn a blind eye to the severity & frequency this happens. It enrages me when people pat child abuse victims on the head at age 18 & pretend they’ll be safe from now on, plus will “feel better” as soon as they forgive. What garbage! This video is for all of YOU “rare victims” of child abuse, child neglect, or harmful toxic parenting. You are ALLOWED to prioritise your safety & sanity by start getting rid of toxic family members. Your spouse/priest/whoever has no business pressuring you to do otherwise. You can’t choose your relatives – but YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR FAMILY.
LINK to TURPIN SENTENCING: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2dWrRlwZbU
0:36 Blame Game
2:49 Taking Responsibility
6:37 Vicarious Trauma
9:31 Crocodile Tears
11:50 Facade of Innocence
12:36 Suspicious Timing
13:28 Social Pressure & Propaganda
14:38 Coercion & Threats
15:16 Predatory Stalking
Here are your guides to CHOOSING …
WHEN TO HAVE CHILDREN
HOW TO HAVE CHILDREN
HOW MANY CHILDREN TO HAVE
HOW TO EXPLAIN YOUR FAMILY STRUCTURE
RAISING FATHERLESS CHILDREN
FOSTER CARE OPTIONS EXPLAINED
TIPS FOR PARENTING ALONE
DISCIPLINE SUCCESSFULLY ALONE
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BACKGROUND: I had an only child for nearly 9 years before giving birth to 4 more children within 2.5 years. In addition to my own 3 sons and 2 daughters – which include 2 sets of twins – I fostered 20 children over 7 years in 2 states, including twins and sibling groups – before my own boy/girl twins were born. Before being formally, medically retired by the Medical Assessment Tribunal (in March 2014), I worked in child care (4 years), created/delivered professional development level courses in behaviour management philosophies & strategies (3 years), plus worked in public schools with children at risk (2 years), and the child protection sector (8 years). Whilst I am permanently, medically unable to resume my prior profession, I believe my years of raising children plus working with child clients and their families enables me to provide useful, generalised, lived experience information in YouTube’s pre-recorded format.
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